Don't Let Old People Back Into Your New Life

Cut the cord.

Today’s message is straightforward, direct, and unambiguous.

Don’t let them back in.

You’ve done some work on yourself. You’ve grown a little bit. You have learned more about who you are and who you are not. This is a time to honor your growth and your path, not a time to go backward. Why would you take three steps back after you just had to fight, scratch, and claw to overcome what you just went through? It’s not necessarily a time to keep hiking and moving forward. I don’t know your situation. Perhaps, you’re resting and finding equilibrium. Maybe you are marching forward with he most excellent momentum. If you're sitting still, I applaud you. If you're moving forward, yes, I applaud you, too.

And I remind you from the bottom of my heart: do not go backwards.

Now, There’s a risk I run here of potentially preaching individualism and perhaps adding to some people’s arrogance and victim mentality. I would offer now that my intent is to remind you from a humble place just how precious this life is. I ask that you reduce and release any arrogance or victim mentality. I’m not writing to validate either one of those. I never have. I never will.

I’m humbly reminding you that you can let them back in because it would be the ultimate sign of disrespect to your journey. The years of disrespecting who you are are over. It’s a new day, and it’s a new you reading today’s words; otherwise, you wouldn’t be here. The Law of Attraction has attracted you to this message. Think about that. You didn’t find the Love and Discipline Substack by accident; you saw it because these words are divine timing. You can’t open that door. Maybe a future version of you will be able to handle the intricacies that come with that door being open. Let’s not be close-minded to possibility. But the version of you now cannot handle it. Be for real. Stop playing. You don’t owe them anything.

You owe yourself. Keep the door closed.

And while you keep that door closed, I want you to realize something important: closure does not require conversation. Closure does not require explanation. Closure is a decision. A sacred, internal vow you make to yourself. You don't need their understanding or approval. You don’t need to justify your healing to anyone who was never committed to protecting it in the first place. You don’t need to get into another argument or battle with this person.

Too often, we reopen doors simply because of nostalgia, guilt, or some old wound we haven't fully come to terms with. But remember: not everyone who was part of your story is meant to stay for every chapter. Some people were teachers of lessons. And some lessons, when fully learned, require distance.

You are no longer the version of you who tolerated the chaos. The version of you who ignored your intuition. The version of you who kept shrinking to make others comfortable. That person served their purpose. You’ve graduated from that season.

The invitation today is not to live in fear or bitterness, but to stand in alignment with your evolution. To protect your joy. To honor your inner sanctuary. To recognize that self-love isn’t just baths and affirmations—it’s boundaries, too.

Keep going. Quietly. Powerfully. Unapologetically.

Love and Discipline is not a mantra. It's a lifestyle.

Yes, please give people respect, honor, and treat others in your life with love. That is my plea, always. But in this moment. I also need you to grant yourself access to that holy trinity, too.

Honor.

Respect.

Love.

Keep that door closed for now.

Keep building. Keep growing.

Team Love and Discipline