Young Man, Part 1.

Young man,

Modern society does not prepare you for the depths of modern society especially as a man, therefore, the onus is on you to develop yourself.

Being a man, in this world, and in this country is hard. You need to acquire every advantage you can along your way. Get every advantage you can and use it in your favor. Nothing is fair and nothing is ethical. The powers that be want you to play ethical ball but they don’t play ethical ball, at all.

Develop your speaking, both public speaking and how you speak in private. The best way to do this is to write and to speak and allow yourself to make mistakes without judgment but with observation.

You do need to hold yourself to a standard, even as a teenager. Your teenage years is when you began to develop your philosophies on what you will be as a man. You will take some from your father, even if you hate him or don’t know him. There’s things in your DNA that will come online as you progress through this amazing life. I strongly recommend that you began to seek an understanding of your father even if he has passed. You do not need to like him but understanding him will help you.

Develop your confidence speaking to women and speaking to men you fear. Never take what a woman says about you personally, especially if they are teasing you or even reject you. Just keep moving on and walking your path. Stop acting like a baby if a woman rejects you. Have some decorum and walk away.

Develop the strength to articulate your thoughts because you will need this skill forever. When you’re young, most likely, a woman you love will hurt you and you need to develop the composure to work through that. I strongly recommend finding an elder ( older man you can trust), and listen to him. Ask him to be brutally honest about female nature. You will be a miserable man if you do not understand female nature.

When you’re young, another boy you care about may get physical with you. It’s important that you learn how to hold your ground and you learn when to walk away.

There’s a little dance that happens there: do I whoop this boy, do I talk, or do I walk away. This is a hard and nuanced situation that young boys go through. The right thing for me to say to you as a man is to not fight, however, the world around you is violent and when I was young I fought over 30+ times. While I would be a hypocrite to tell you not to, as an older man, I hope you recognize that one punch can literally end someone’s life or yours.

Choose wisely….

It‘s important that you speak to your father, mentors, and men you trust about things as they are developing. You can never let anyone bully you and you should seek no satisfaction in bullying, but you do need to understand how to defend yourself because you will be tested. Again, never bully, but never allow yourself to be bullied. It’s a dance.

Began to understand economics and most specifically: how to invest and scale your money. Making money is easy and I want you to believe that making money is easy.

It’s just the law of attraction.

You can attract wealth if you want.

It‘s easy.

The society you live in is going to play games with you and it’s important that you prioritize building wealth in your teens and 20’s. Don’t listen to average and broke women on social media who make you think that you owe them something lavish.

You owe them nothing....Set a standard for what type of woman is allowed to be in your space.

As a young boy, you may take what you can get, or you can get clear on the exact type of woman you want to build with.

When I was younger, I used to think forgiveness was the way to heal. As I got older, I began to reject that idea because I understood that people needed to be held accountable for abuse. I’m not forgiving abuse, neglect, or a lack of love when there are other options.

It’s possible that both may be available to you. NO matter what, do not keep that pain on your chest if it is not needed.

Stress will kill you.

Holding a grudge will kill you.

Let it go if it’s not important.

Find a way to work through your pain, integrate it and move on. Life is too sweet and amazing to be stuck on pain.

It’s important that you go for your dreams, too.

Your family may not get it but you need to do it.

Do it with a certain level of hunger and urgency. Treat yourself like a professional and stay committed to your goals, no matter what.

Lazy people will make fun of you but since when do we value the opinion of the lazy?

Your youth is a small window of time and it’s important that you find the balance between having “fun” and using your prime years to stay dedicated to growth, development, and mental exploration.

This is a time where you get to carve out who you are going to be. Take up a sport, go on field trips and be open-minded to doing things outside of what you have been exposed to.

Young man, it’s important that you journal.

I know how hard it is to have certain conversations.

Women don’t listen as well as they think and some of the men around you will joke around way too much when you’re trying to communicate something real.

Not all, but some.

At times, your journal will be the only thing that can hold the full capacity of your thoughts. Make sure love is a major component of what you do and how you operate.

Fall in love with your journey man.

Love the way you go about your business, your body, your mental, your food, etc. Invest in everything you love and again, learn to let things go that don’t matter.

And last thing, never ever listen to the opinion of someone who never chased their dreams - they can’t help you, hear you or support you.

I don’t care if you are 71 or 17, go for your dreams, and continue to develop yourself.

You have plenty of chances to grow no matter what.

With Love and Discipline to you....